Many people were taught that me sounds rude, so they say John and I everywhere, even where it's wrong. One quick test solves it.

The short answer #

  • I is a subject: it does the action. I called Anna.
  • Me is an object: it receives the action or follows a preposition. Anna called me.

The drop-the-other-person test #

Remove the other person and see which word sounds right on its own.

John and ___ went to the meeting. → I went ✓ → John and I went to the meeting.

The manager thanked John and ___. → thanked me ✓ → The manager thanked John and me.

This is between you and ___. → between me ✓ → between you and me.

"Between you and I" is always wrong #

After a preposition (between, with, for, to, from), use me:

  • between you and me
  • for Sarah and me
  • with my team and me

Where "myself" goes wrong #

Myself is only correct when I is also the subject of the sentence, or for emphasis.

  • ✓ I made it myself.
  • ✓ I taught myself to code.
  • ✗ Please contact John or myself. → Please contact John or me.

Politeness tip #

It's traditional to put yourself last: Anna and I, Anna and me, not I and Anna.

Common mistakes #

Wrong Right
Me and Tom are going. Tom and I are going.
She invited Tom and I. She invited Tom and me.
Send it to myself. Send it to me.

Let AI check your pronouns #

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